A man is being slammed for not supporting his wife's decision to put a lock on the bathroom door after his brother repeatedly walked in on her while exposed.

The woman, u/Sands2019, shared her side of the story to the popular Reddit forum r/AmITheA**hole to find out if she was in the wrong. She earned 24,500 upvotes and 5,400 comments for her post, "[Am I the A**hole] for installing a lock on the bathroom door after my [brother-in-law] kept barging in?"

The original poster (OP), says that she's 25, her husband is 30 and his brother is 33. Her brother-in-law moved in just a few weeks prior due to his recent divorce. Though her husband is really close with his brother, she says that she doesn't know him that well and had barely spoken to him before he moved in.

Her brother-in-law has a bad habit of busting in on her while she's in the bathroom or the bedroom. She says that his intrusions into the bedroom aren't as problematic as she's not always exposed in that room. The OP has also noticed that he only walks in on her in the bathroom, but never her husband.

However, when she brought this up to her husband, he "laughed it off," and called her "paranoid."

"It was embarrassing because his brother would see me exposed and it made me uncomfortable. My husband said he spoke to him and he apologized but did it again," u/Sands2019 wrote.

The day before OP wrote her post, however, was the last straw: her brother-in-law walked in on her while she was in the shower. He knew she was in there but said he had to use the facilities. This led the OP to get a lock and install it.

However, this caused her husband to get angry, as they both promised not to have indoor locks when they married. She did give her husband a recent ultimatum, telling him she'd put a lock on the bathroom if her brother-in-law walked in on her again—but he didn't say anything until it happened.

In a later update, she said that she told her husband that she would only remove the lock once his brother moves out. But he called her "childish" and tried to remove the lock anyway. She instead decided to pack and live with her mother for the next few days until the situation is resolved.

"On my way out I saw my [brother-in-law] in the driveway smoking. He knew what the argument between me and my husband was about but instead of stepping up to fix it he offered to take me to my mom's house saying that my husband could use some space 'from me,'" u/Sands2019 wrote. "This made me cry the whole uber ride to my mom's house.

"The reason I feel offended is because [brother-in-law] tend to be hurtful when he talks about others. I did all I could to win his approval but he thinks less of me and thinks I'm childish just like my husband says."

While nearly everyone has either been walked in on or walked in on someone mistakenly, a pattern suggests something deeper at work. Though a recent article covered a woman who regularly walked in on her sister in the bedroom—the fact that OP's brother-in-law only seems to walk in on her, not her husband, implies that there's a level of harassment going on.

In a workplace, there are ways of fighting back against harassment. Be sure to document everything, and go to the company's human resources department. However, home life doesn't have an HR department—which can make it trickier. Though the OP has made it clear that her brother-in-law's advances are unwanted, according to Jef Gazley writing for Queendom.com, there's not a legal remedy available unless the situation were to escalate to assault.

However, it does seem that the brother-in-law in this instance might be acting as a toxic family member—and in those cases, Newsweek has published articles about what one can do in this situation. In one, a woman with a "narcissist" brother-in-law was urged to set boundaries, and cut ties with him if possible.

Reddit backed the OP, and had harsh words for both the brother-in-law and her husband.

"'When my husband and I got married, we promised to not have locks or lock each other out of any room.' That seems a tad unhealthy. Even the best relationships need boundaries and everyone deserves the option of privacy," u/FloppyEaredDog wrote in the top-rated comment with over 36,000 upvotes. "Let me guess, your husband suggested the no locks idea first. [Not the A**hole]."

"Seriously. Like, my husband and I have a bunch of locks on the bathrooms and bedrooms but we've never used them and never discussed them. Why did he bring this up?" u/dreamqueen9103 agreed.

"OP needs to tell her husband she's not locking him out, she's locking out her creepy a** [brother-in-law] who keeps violating her [privacy] and since no one seems to care, she needs to protect herself. Now I'm curious to know why he's divorced," u/Major_Zucchini5315 wrote.

"OP needs to lock out husband too based on him getting so angry about her 'violating their agreement' but laughing off his brother violating her privacy," u/cosmic_grayblekeeper added. "Moreover that last line: 'BIL thinks I'm as childish as husband is always telling me I am.' Yeah, I don't like hubby at all."

Newsweek reached out to u/Sands2019 for comment.

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